So, some of you will remember at this time last year I was dating Rob. He was a brand new daddy to a 3 week old little girl when we went on our first date. The romance fizzeled by the end of Feb but we remained friends. In April Rob found out that he had cancer. By May he was told that he had had the cancer for a few years due to were it had already spread. It was bad enough that chemo was not even offered, just drugs to make it better on him. At that point Rob became a very angry man. He was withdrawn from everyone, was always pissy & just not the fun loving guy we all loved. And truth be told who the hell could blame him? He was 27 & had a brand new lil girl who was the love of his life.
The last time I really really talked to him he said that the Dr. gave him 3-4 months. Rob held on for about 3, he had it to his daughters 1st birthday then died the day after Christmas. I saw him the day he died & was totally shocked at what I saw. Honestly, I wish I hadn't seen him. That was not the Rob that I laughed with, had tickle fights with till I couldnt scream any longer. the same man who never looked more alive or in love than when he was holding his baby girl. I dont know who that person was but it was not Rob. I refuse to remember him the way he looked that day. I choose to remember him as the spunky man he was.
With him gone, I feel more at ease & please dont take that the wrong way. He was in such a massive amount of pain & now I know he isn't. But I can't help but ache for his little girl. That's the part of this story that kills me, that breaks my heart. This man was totally crazy for his little girl. In a world where a lot of fathers never ever have anything to do with their kids, its even more heartbreaking. I just hope those around her will always remind her of the love her father has for her.
That's about all I can say on this. Rob, I will miss you. <3
This is what was in the paper:
GLADEWATER - Services for Robert Allen Tyler, 27, of Longview, will be 2 p.m. Saturday, December 29, 2007, at Croley Funeral Home Chapel in Gladewater, with the Rev. David Reeder officiating. Burial will be in Memory Park Cemetery in Longview.
Born February 1, 1980, in Longview, Texas, he died Wednesday, December 26, 2007. He was a veteran of the U.S. Navy and was employed by Special Events Party Rental.
He is survived by his daughter, Kyliene Shane Tyler of Longview; mother, Mary Travis Tyler of Longview, paternal grandmother, Shirley Hutto Porter of Longview; brother, Michael Wayne Tyler of Okinawa, Japan; and several aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews and cousins.